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Feeling Stuck

Hey friends, Its Sylvia Nwokolo, and I'm glad you have joined me on this journey to enlighten you to thrive and be all that you were purposed to be.

The first line of a song by Nash revival says: I feel like my soul is in critical condition; and the chorus goes like this:

'So help me God I’m so lost and afraid my thoughts are heavy

help me God; every road is a dead end I can never win, help me God; I’ve fallen but I still believe in grace. I’m calling from the darkness for you to light my way, So help me God. So help me God.'

These lyrics caught my attention big time, cos I’ve been there and I know you’ve been there too and if I’m honest I am there right now. So let's walk this through together. What do you do when you are feeling stuck? When you feel you have come to the end of yourself. Do you binge on food to stop your self from thinking? I’ve been there and it still doesn’t get you unstuck. Being stuck leads to a feeling of despair, and a constant state of despair can lead to hopelessness and depression. So what can you do instead?

The first thing I do is to acknowledge how I feel. No need to numb it or hide it from myself. You find examples of this in the psalms where David laments about his soul being cast down. Don’ be afraid to feel your pain, don’t try to numb it. Tell God what it is. Talk to a trusted friend if you feel they can handle it and you are comfortable doing so. Let it out. Your soul feels stuck and hurt and it is okay to acknowledge it. Give yourself grace and show yourself some kindness. Acknowledge the feeling so you can move on to the next step. The next step is to zoom out. Look at the big picture, what brought me here and what am I hoping to achieve in the long run. The big picture helps me see the greater vision and gain a better perspective of the situation. The big picture vision helps me to know my next steps. The big picture gives me the answer to the question: Is this me giving up on this or will I stir up my faith to believe this is not the end? Do not stay stuck in the dead end cos fixing your eyes on the dead end will keep you feeling stuck. Zoom out and look unto Jesus the author and finisher of your faith. Zoom out and fix your eyes on the prize, the goal, the big vision. When you have a better perspective, you can see clearly to realise that there is another step. I can take another step. I’m not stuck. What am trying to get you to recognise is that feeling stuck is a temporary feeling. Don’t turn the temporal feeling to a permanent feeling by entertaining it, throwing a pity party and making a bed for it in your life. Acknowledge you feel stuck but don’t stay there. Zoom out and you would see clearly to take the next step towards the vision you have.

And if right now you are saying, Sylvia I’m lost, I never had the big picture. I don’t know the big picture. That my friend is where you start from. The bible says my people perish for lack of knowledge. It also said, write the vision make it plain so you may run with it. There is a longing and yearning each of us has to fulfil in this life. This longing lights you up and makes you come alive no matter how far fetched it might be. This my friend is the big picture, articulate it and keep it in front of your eyes. It is with this big picture that I make plans and assess my progress to know when and how to move forward. I usually have scriptures anchored to my vision because God’s word remains true. It has stood the test of time. Heaven and earth may pass away but God’s word remains true. So when you feel stuck, remember the big picture vision to have the right perspective about the circumstance. This would keep your eyes focused enough to take the next step.

And to be honest there are some situation that is beyond human comprehension to deal with, that’s when I am thankful I believe in the power of miracles. As I write this I remember the scripture in the message translation that you are blessed when you’re at the end of your rope. With less of you there is more of God. I can also recall the story of Moses leading the Israelites out of Egypt, they got stuck between the red sea in front of them and the Egyptian army charging behind them. They desperately needed a miracle, and God delivered them from that situation by instructing Moses on what to do that parted the red sea, and made a way of escape for them. Have faith in the God that parted the red sea, the God that does miracles, the God that would instruct you on your next step. I can testify to God’s miracles in my life from personal to family to finances. He is able to do more than we ask, think or imagine. Trust him to do the seemingly impossible, to turn things around in your favour. He is able. I don’t know what you feel stuck in but I believe that God always makes a way where there seems to be no way. Be it by you taking the next steps or believing that the God who gave you the longing in your heart, the big vision, is able to make a way for you. As he said in his word: Is the lord’s arm too short? Now you will see whether or not what he says will come true. He is able. I will end with the words of the singer Jenn Johnson:

Hold on, don't let go; Just take one step closer; Put one foot in front of the other; You'll get through this; Follow the light in the darkness; You're gonna be okay.

Don’t stop now my friend, don’t give up on yourself. Until next time, its your host Sylvia Nwokolo reminding you to keep winning, shining and thriving. God bless.

Sylvia Nwokolo is a Wellbeing Transformation Coach and Author.

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